Encouragement For Everyone · Encouragement For Singles

#WIFE: When The Wait Frustrates

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Happy holidays.

It’s the last Wednesday/our last #WIFE’s post for the year 2017 and I just want to encourage you who, yet another year’s ending and ‘it’ (whatever it is) still hasn’t happened for you.

Don’t despair, “for He Who promised is reliable (sure) and faithful to His word.”

God has not forgotten you, “the Lord has been mindful of us, He will bless us.” (Psalms 115:12). Always remember that He remembers you.

It may not have happened yet or this year as you hoped but look at it this way, as the year ends and we enter into a new year by God’s grace, you are closer to the due date. Time is not going, your time is coming.

Oh, the wait may frustrate,

but please keep the faith as God orchestrates,

for His purpose, none can thwart.

Don’t take the bait to settle for less or to become desperate,

for though He seems to tarry, He won’t be late,

when the time’s just right, He’ll make it happen

and you’ll see it was worth the wait.

The wait

Hang in there, seasons change.

“…for there is a time [appointed] for every matter and purpose and for every work.” – Ecclesiastes 3:17 AMPC

This may be the season where you’re being firmly rooted in preparation for the fruits you will bring forth (in season).

This may be a time to wait, a time to celebrate will come.

So don’t fret, stay in faith, stay hopeful, trust the God of the process. He’s faithful.

Be encouraged.

Happy new year in advance.

Encouragement For Singles

#WIFE: Encouragement On Waiting

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Hey there.

How are you doing? No really, how are you doing? You can send me a message (contact me), let’s talk if you want or  if you ever need someone to talk to.

So, it’s another Wednesday and time for #WIFE (Wednesday Is For Encouragement), our weekly dose of encouragement. Yay!

Today, we are encouraging those of us waiting.

If you don’t like waiting, raise your hand so we can know ourselves.

I mean, I’m not sure I’ve ever heard anyone say, “I just like waiting”, whether it’s waiting in line or waiting on God to change a situation.

Waiting can be hard, no doubt but scripture says, it is good, yea.

“It is good to wait quietly for salvation from the Lord.” – Lamentations 3:26

And you know God never leaves or abandons us, even in waiting, He is with us, helping us, it is He who gives the power of patient endurance (steadfastness) and who supplies encouragement (Romans 15:5), His goodness follows us all the days of our lives including our waiting days.

“So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.” – Galatians 6:9

See that? Let’s put those verses together for a better flow;

“It is good to wait quietly for salvation from the Lord.” – Lamentations 3:26

“So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.” – Galatians 6:9

Waiting on God may not be easy but it is good, choosing to do things God’s way is the best decision one can make, so let’s not get tired of waiting, of doing this good thing, of seeking God, of expecting His goodness, of trusting Him, for at just the right time, not a second later, we’ll reap a harvest, if we don’t give up.

So let’s be encouraged as we wait, our time, the right time is coming and let us not give up on God, He says, “I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.” (Jeremiah 29:11)

In times when you feel like you can’t carry on, remember and hold on to His word, He says My grace (My favor and loving-kindness and mercy) is enough for you [sufficient against any danger and enables you to bear the trouble manfully]; for My strength and power are made perfect (fulfilled and completed) and show themselves most effective in [your] weakness…” (2 Corinthian 12:9), “they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength…” (Isaiah 40:31).

Be encouraged.

Happy Wednesday.

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Encouragement For Singles

#WIFE: Dear Single Sister, A Quick Word

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Happy new month and happy Wednesday!

Today’s #WIFE’s post is coming a bit late, I apologize but hey, better late than never, right?

Just a quick word for my single sisters;

You don’t have to have a life partner to enjoy your life, you just need to partner with ‘The Life’.

You know, Jesus.

He says,  “…I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows).” – John 10:10 AMPC

To wait is not to waste, God is at work and you trust Him, don’t you?

So, be happy.

Live your life, the life that Jesus came that you may have, even if it doesn’t include that guy yet.

Be encouraged.

Encouragement For Singles

Thank God In Your Season Of Singleness


I’ve heard more married people thank God for their season of singleness than I’ve heard single people thank God in their season of singleness.  It gives the impression that now, in retrospect, they realize what God was doing all along while they were single and they thank Him for it, which is good, totally fine, nothing wrong with that, because of course, sometimes, if not most times, we don’t understand and fully appreciate what God is doing until later but do we have to wait until we understand it before we thank Him? Does it have to be until we get it that we can express our gratitude?

You know, the bible admonishes us to “thank [God] in everything [no matter what the circumstances may be, be thankful and give thanks], for this is the will of God for you [who are] in Christ Jesus [the Revealer and Mediator of that will]”. -1 Thessalonians 5:18 AMPC

Some of us singles, even tend to thank God more for ‘our marriages’ (you know, in faith) than we do for our current season, which is fine but what about all  we enjoy in this season, all God does and is doing for us, shouldn’t we thank Him for that? Is it when you have to share a bed with the hubby, you know, his side, your side or hardly sleep because of the baby that you will thank God for all the time you had to sleep when were single, on any side of the bed you wanted? I mean. Lol, but seriously though.

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We ought to thank Him in everything.

Don’t get to share your bed? Thank Him.

You (then) get to share a bed with your husband? Thank Him.

Thank God, for He’s not less good in any of these situations.

You don’t have to wait till you see what He has done before you thank Him for what He was doing, we can thank Him for where we are while trusting Him for where He’s taking us.  It’s simply acknowledging His goodness, every step of the way.

So, what’s there to be thankful for in your singleness?

  • Your salvation, you may not have met your soul mate yet but your soul is saved, praise God because that’s the ultimate.
  • His unconditional and unfailing love. Oh, how He loves you.
  • The love of family and friends, He’s filled your life with.
  • All this free time you have to spend with Him and serve Him.
  • His mercies by which you were not consumed by your past.
  • His grace in this season.
  • His strength when you are weak.
  • His comfort and companionship in lonely times, you know He’s always there.
  • His being a present help, you know all those ‘if only I had a husband’ times, like when you need help with changing a light bulb or lifting heavy stuff and somehow you get it done, you know that’s Him, right?  Or when an unusual (scary) sound wakes up you at night and you have no one to turn to and wake up too, but He’s always there for you to look up to and His presence calms your fears.
  • The work He’s doing in you.
  • His purpose for you which you know you don’t have to be married to walk in.
  • What He’s preparing you for and what He’s preparing for you.
  • All He’s teaching you and helping you learn now, which you are probably going to need later.
  • That by His grace, you’ve not settled for less than His best for you. Oh the pressures.
  • His goodness and faithfulness. Is He not good and faithful even now?
  • His encouragement and power of patient endurance, yea, He gives you that too.

Oh, we have so much to be thankful for and we don’t have to wait, don’t be the girl who’ll only thank God for her season of singleness when she gets married, thank Him in it.


So there. What are your thoughts? What are you thankful for in your single season? Would love to hear, I mean, I can’t be the only who’s thankful for my sleep time now or am I? 🙂 Do share in the comments.

Be encouraged.

Encouragement For Singles

#WIFE: Better Nobody Than The Wrong Somebody

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Hey girl,

How are you? Trust you’re doing ok.

It’s the last Wednesday of the month and you know what it is, Wednesday Is For Encouragement, #WIFE.

Today, I just want to encourage you to not settle, keep not settling and don’t stay settling.

“Better nobody than the wrong somebody.” – Laju Iren

Being single can be hard and lonely sometimes, yea, but you know what’s harder to deal with and lonelier, settling for the wrong person…

Please don’t do it, you don’t have to. Do this instead;

Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.” – Proverbs 3:5-6

Be encouraged to keep trusting God and waiting on Him, choosing to do things His way.

He will not let you down.

Happy Wednesday.

Encouragement For Everyone

Stick with the Shepherd.


We are more than halfway through January already, how is it going?

For some of us, a new year comes with an imbalanced mix of  excitement and uncertainty.

What will the year bring?

Last year, I expected… but…

Will this year be different?

I thought I’d have achieved so and so by now…

I can’t believe I’m still…

Or still…?

What if the year ends and I’m still single…?

What if…?

I wish I could tell you, straight up, that all your dreams are coming true this year.

I wish I knew the same thing for myself for times when I have questions.

Well, I don’t but I’ve chosen to and I’m suggesting, that we trust the One who does.

Verse 1 of  the most likely familiar, Psalms 23, says;

The Lord is my Shepherd [to feed, guide, and shield me], I shall not lack. (emphasis added)

I like the three words used to describe the Shepherd here (AMPC version) and it helps to drive home the point of this post, on sticking with the Shepherd, the Lord God, Almighty, our Creator, who knew us even before we were born, knows everything about us, even the end from the beginning, surely He’s trustworthy.

I say, we stick with the Shepherd who knows what’s best for us, who FEEDS, GUIDES and SHIELDS us, ensuring that we lack not, as He leads us.

FEEDS; We are provided with what we need, PRESENTLY.

GUIDES; Some things we need, may require going through a PROCESS, He takes us through the process and we get what we need in due time.

SHIELDS; Some things we think we need  but we don’t have or get them because the Shepherd who knows better, knows that we don’t need them, so He shields us and sometimes when we think we’re being deprived or rejected, we’re actually being PROTECTED.

He sees the big picture that we do not see, He knows what we need better than we do, He feeds us and guides us to them as required and shields us as well, when necessary, because He also knows what we don’t need  (even when we think we need it), so why not stick with Him.

Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own.
Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go;  he’s the one who will keep you on track. – Proverbs 3: 5-6 MSG

Like a sheep, His sheep, that hears and listens to His voice, that follows Him, stick to the Shepherd, you’ll have what you need and what you need, you’ll have.

I hope to have a great year and I wish you same too.

Be encouraged.