Encouragement For Everyone

#WIFE: You Won’t Regret It

Trust God-You wont regret it

Keep trusting God.

Give up trying to help Him but don’t give up trusting Him to help you.

Trust Him. In everything. For everything. With everything.

You’ve got nothing to lose but e.v.e.r.y.thing to gain.

You may get discouraged, you may despair, you may be dismayed but choose to trust Him anyway.

Scripture reassures us, “No one who trusts God like this—heart and soul—will ever regret it.” – Romans 10:11 MSG

He is good, His plans are better, He knows best.

Don’t stop trusting Him.

You won’t regret it.

Be encouraged.


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Don’t Find X, Trust God

In the equation of life, time (t) may be unknown (x) to us, but it’s not to God, and He’s not like our math teacher asking us to find x, He wants us to know instead, that He is the constant, He doesn’t change, we can trust Him.

Not to mention, all the ‘x’ we found when we were in school, who or how has it helped? Lol, but seriously though, what’s the use of worrying about what you have no control over?

Timing, the bible says, is the Father’s business. (Acts 1:7)

So, rest girl.

Rest in the fact that, you may not know when, but you know the One who does.

Trust Him, trust God.

Be encouraged.

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Susie’s Successful, Tracy’s Thriving, What’s Wrong With Me?

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No offence  please, if you are reading this and your name is Susie or Tracy, but can you relate?

Susie’s successful, she seems to have everything I desire on a platter and we are age mates.

Tracy’s thriving, already doing things I thought I would have done by now and I knew her when she was practically a baby.

Scrolling through social media and going “oh, how nice” on a friend’s photo but deep down, feeling left out.

Why is mine taking time, why do I have to wait? Why can’t I have what she has? What on earth is wrong with me?

You (sometimes) wonder.

First of all, nothing is wrong with you, God just has a different plan for your life.

What you should not do is compare yourself with someone else, the bible says, it’s not a wise thing to do.

 Not that we [have the audacity to] venture to class or [even to] compare ourselves with some who exalt and furnish testimonials for themselves! However, when they measure themselves with themselves and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding and behave unwisely. – 2 Corinthians 10:12

I can understand the tendency to expect certain things to happen in your life at a particular time or as it seems to happen for others but there’s something I’ve learnt over time, something called God’s plan. He has one for everyone.

The bible talks about us being formed in secret, that to me, buttresses the point that, there’s something unique about each of us. Each, wonderfully & fearfully made. (Psalms 139:14-15)

No matter how wonderful someone else’s life looks to you because of what they have, that you don’t or what they are doing, that you are not, your life isn’t any less wonderful.

If you are like me, you probably didn’t grow up knowing that God had a plan for your life, you grew up expecting things to follow the order of the system you met.

Many unmet expectations/unfulfilled-desires-in-your-timeline later,  you are probably learning, as I am, that God has a plan for your life, one obviously different from the one you had or what you thought it should be, a plan that no one, not even you, can thwart  because even if  we grew up under conditions that were not quite in His plan for us, He has a way of leading us back to His plan – usually the hard way.

You are probably learning, as I recently read somewhere, “that sometimes we make our plans, and sometimes we surrender to plans”.

My plan was something like this – finish school, get a job/make lots of money, get married by latest 25 (lol, yea, I actually said latest 25, when it didn’t happen at 25, I moved the timeline to 28, lol), have 3 kids by 30-31 and just live happily ever after. Talk about being naive.

Now the thing is, I know some ladies whose plans also kinda looked like that and theirs seemed to have worked out for them but for me, 5 years after when I thought I’d be a wife, I’m not, instead I’m a writer, encouraging – you guessed it – single ladies like myself (and happily so). I’ve always loved writing but I certainly didn’t see this coming, now that’s just one of the many discoveries in what I’d call (if it was a movie), ‘So I thought I had a plan.’


Bottom line, God has a plan for your life, different from everyone else’s, different, most of the time, from the one you had for yourself.

What you should do is stop expecting your life to look or turn out like everybody else’s or look like the image society portrays, but rather trust and seek God for His plan for your life and embrace it because being in God’s plan, where He wants you to be, doing what He wants you to do, that’s the true measure of success, your being faithful where God has you, is what truly matters.

Being faithful means remaining loyal and steadfast, staying true to the facts or the original; stop comparing yourself with everybody else and be faithful to you, live your truth and be free.

Focus on being the best you, not trying to be like someone else or trying to be better than someone else.

It’s not about being ahead or behind, it’s about being faithful where God has you.

Know that,  ‘yet to happen’ is not synonymous with ‘abandoned’.

Thus says the Lord, “I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.” – Jeremiah 29:11

So, “delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires and secret petitions of your heart” (Psalms 37:4) but, the thing with delighting yourself in the Lord is, as you do, you begin to desire more and more what He wants for you not what you want for yourself, as you delight yourself in the Lord, you ultimately surrender to His plans and release the ones you had.

Now, that may mean that your life looks different from others but it also means that it looks just the way God wants it, and trust me girl, that’s what you want.

So, as Sharon Jaynes says, let go of comparison and take hold of your God fashioned uniqueness.

Love and live the life that God has given you, knowing that wherever He has you now, He’s grace is available and sufficient for you.

PS: You saw the part where I said, nothing is wrong you, yea?

Be encouraged.

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So They Say Time Is Going


They say time is going.

Well yea, it’s going to get to mine.

It may seem to be tarrying,

but it’s going to get to mine.

There’s no cause for worrying,

for it’s going to get to mine.

My steps, God’s ordering,

guiding me to mine,

there’s no point hurrying,

He’s perfecting  me for mine.

So, though they say time is going,

He says there’s a right timing

and I believe that time is coming.

So yea, time is going,

going to get to mine.

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#WIFE: Better’s Never Behind

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“But forget all that, it is nothing compared to what I am going to do.
For I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it?”

– God, your Redeemer (Isaiah 43:18-19)

If God has brought you out of something, be encouraged to let go and move on, trust that He has something better for you, He says the plans He has for you are of good and not of evil… (Jeremiah 29:11)

You may not see it immediately, you may not feel it either but trust Him, trust Him, trust Him.

Be encouraged.


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#WIFE: You’re Being Refined Not Burned


It may seem like you are going through ‘fire’ but be encouraged, you are not burning, you are ‘goldening’. Is that a word? I just made it up. Goldening because this (whatever it is), won’t get the best of you, God will use it instead, to bring out the best in you.

Just like gold, you are being refined not burned.

Check out these scriptures for some encouragement;

“Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.” – James 1:2-4 MSG

Moreover [let us also be full of joy now!] let us exult and triumph in our troubles and rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that pressure and affliction and hardship produce patient and unswerving endurance. And endurance (fortitude) develops maturity of character (approved faith and tried integrity). And character [of this sort] produces [the habit of] joyful and confident hope of eternal salvation. Such hope never disappoints or deludes or shames us…” – Romans 5:3-5 AMPC

“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you, and through the rivers, they will not overwhelm you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned or scorched, nor will the flame kindle upon you. – Isaiah 43:2 AMPC

“So we’re not giving up. How could we! Even though on the outside it often looks like things are falling apart on us, on the inside, where God is making new life, not a day goes by without his unfolding grace. These hard times are small potatoes compared to the coming good times, the lavish celebration prepared for us.” – 2 Corinthians 4:16-17 MSG

Keep trusting God and be encouraged.


Encouragement For Everyone

#WIFE: Realize How Blessed You Are


As the song writer says, “when upon life’s billows you are tempest-tossed, when you are discouraged thinking all is lost, count your many blessings, name them one by one and it will surprise you what the Lord hath done.”

Not only will it surprise you, it will renew your hope and encourage you to keep trusting Him.

Forget about all of life’s issues stressing you out at the moment and just realize how blessed you are regardless.

He forgives all your sins
and heals all your diseases.
He redeems you from death
and crowns you with love and tender mercies.
He fills your life with good things.
Your youth is renewed like the eagle’s!

The Lord is compassionate and merciful,
slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.
He will not constantly accuse you,
nor remain angry forever.
He does not punish you for all your sins;
he does not deal harshly with you, as you deserve.
For His unfailing love toward those who fear him
is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth.
He has removed your sins as far from you
as the east is from the west.
The Lord is like a father to his children,
tender and compassionate to those who fear him.” 

(Culled from Psalms 103)

Ah! “Let all that I am praise the Lord; may I never forget the good things He does for me.” (Psalms 103:1)

Even when things don’t look so good, may we never forget that God is good, that His plans for us are of good and all He allows, is for our ultimate good.

May we never forget that God loves us, He’s with us and He won’t fail us.

May we never forget how blessed we are, regardless.

Be encouraged.

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