“Maybe there’s something I could have done differently to keep the relationship.”
“Perhaps, I wouldn’t be single now, if I kept on managing things.”
“I shouldn’t have left him (even though the relationship was unhealthy), at least I’d have someone.”
Can you relate to these thoughts?
I know how it feels to doubt a decision you felt right about, because the events following the decision are not exactly pleasurable.
You’ve been single for too long, now you feel like you were wrong to have left a relationship that you know wasn’t right for you or wrong to turn down one that accepting only meant you’d be compromising.
Loneliness even comes around sometimes and makes you doubt your decision.
Maybe you expected to be immediately “rewarded” with Mr. Good Guy after you finally said goodbye to Mr. Not-so-good Guy, but it hasn’t happened.
Sometimes, it’s not about getting a new guy just yet, it’s about you getting better.
Getting to the Promised Land may not be a walk in the park, but going back to Egypt should not be an option. Just like with the Israelites, God may be taking you through a longer route (you know, you staying single for longer than you expected), so that you can get to know yourself better, get to know Him better, before He gets to “share” you with someone else – Mr. Good Guy.
Better’s never behind.
Don’t listen to loneliness;
You were right to have left that relationship that cost you your peace.
You were right to not stay with him just because folks were happy for you, whereas you weren’t happy.
You were right to not settle for that guy you were unsettled about.
You were right to not go into a marriage that had more questions than answers.
It may have even been a great relationship, but if God let it end, then He has something even greater in store.
You may never have imagined losing him, but watch as God, the exceeding-abundantly-above-all-that-you-could-ask-or-think doer brings you someone you never even imagined having.
Don’t miss what God’s about to do by being stuck in what could have been.
Trust that God is ordering your steps, perfecting that which concerns you and that may include saving you from some relationships.
God’s not stuck wondering what to do with your life; He’s set to wonders in your life.
Don’t stay stuck in regret, when God is set to restore.
Trust Him and don’t let loneliness, the fear of being alone or being left out, take you back to what God clearly saved you from.
“Forget about what’s happened; don’t keep going over old history. Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand-new. It’s bursting out! Don’t you see it?” – Isaiah 43:18-19
“Be alert, be present,” the bible says.
You can’t be present in the past.
Maybe you’re missing the new thing God’s doing because you’re filling your mind with “if I knew.”
Let go. Move on.
Forget the coulda-woulda-shouldas and focus on the new thing God’s doing, even if it’s not about bringing new things just yet, but bringing about a new you first.
Because sometimes, the testimony is not that they left and you (immediately) got someone better, it’s that they left and you got better.