I know you (really) want to get married, you and me both girl, you and me both but for some reason it just hasn’t happened yet and it’s not like you can just go grab you a husband from a store or log in somewhere and order, expecting a delivery within 7 days, at least then, you’d have an answer for the when-questions.
Sometimes, all we can do, (usually after we’ve done everything else), is to trust God and wait on Him.
I also know that there are a lot of people who want you to get married, so much so, that it’s like they can’t wait for your waiting on God, they don’t get it, they keep giving you the you-should-be-married-by-now look. Perhaps, there are even times when you are tempted to go the lay-with-Hagar route, you know, take matters into your hands, just marry anybody already, can I get a witness?
I know there’s the pressure, the questions, the set ups from those in the there’s-this-guy-I-know department, the advices (mostly unsolicited), the expectations, the aunties ( I believe single ladies have more aunties than anyone else, don’t you agree?), the reminders- from social media and almost everywhere you turn, everyone but you seems paired up, it’s like Noah’s ark out there and it’s understandably, easy to feel left out and perhaps, want to get married at all costs, but making a decision (as important as who to marry) under that condition, can cost you.
No matter how much the pressure may be, always consider it too expensive, you can’t afford to get married for the wrong reasons.
Marriage is a blessing from God (as is singleness). To be married is good and desirable but these 9 reasons below are not great reasons to (want to) get married;
- Everyone Else Is / All Your Friends Have
God has unique plans for each of our lives, no man’s life is the template for another and we all soon come to learn that there isn’t a one for all timetable for things to happen in our lives. Besides, scripture encourages us not to compare ourselves with others. Stop looking at the time it happened for someone else as an expiration date for it happening for you, because it. is. not.
- You Feel You’re Running Out Of Time
Well, not as long as you are walking with God. Remember Abraham? Girl, your Father, God, is in charge. It’s not over until He says so. Better to seem to be running out of time, than it not happening at the right time, as Lysa TerKeurst rightly says, “God loves us too much to answer our prayers at any other time than the right time”. Picture this, a fruit you really like, for example. Have you ever had it when it was unripe? I bet it’s sweeter, better and more enjoyable when it’s ripe, yea? Now, was it a fruit when it was unripe? Yes, but was it ready to be eaten? No, and what did it take for it to be ready? Time. See? Things are sweeter, better, and more enjoyable at the right time. Trust God. All things are working together for your good.
- You Think You’re Old Enough
Marriage requires maturity, old enough doesn’t necessarily mean grown enough, to thyself be true.
- You Are Tired Of Being Single
Don’t do it because you are tired, do it because you are ready, and don’t just say you are ready because you are tired either.
Stop thinking you can only earn joy when you get to where you want to be, learn to enjoy where you are, where God has you.
- You Think You May Not Get Another Chance
If you are unsettled about them, please don’t settle with them and trust me, as long as you are doing it God’s way, better’s never behind, but just ahead. “It’s better to be on the shelf than in the wrong cupboard.”
- You Don’t Want To Be Left Out
Darling, you were secretly, uniquely, fearfully and wonderfully made. Your life doesn’t have to look like everyone else for to it be considered beautiful and successful, it doesn’t have to look like everyone else for it to be what God wants it to be and there’s nothing quite as beautiful and truly successful as being where God wants you be. You are not being left out, you are wanting their life when you should be living yours. No matter how wonderful you think someone else life is, your life isn’t any less wonderful.
Okay so, after you rush into a marriage you know is clearly wrong for you, just to prove that nothing is wrong with you, what happens?
- To Get It Checked Off Your Life’s To-do List
If you are in a rush to get married, you could end up making a rash decision that could result in harsh consequences.
- You’ re Done With School And That’s
Naturally ‘Societal-ly’ The Next Thing To Do
Well, it doesn’t have to be like that. Don’t put yourself under unnecessary pressure, remember what we said about pressure earlier, it’s too expensive…
There, so let’s talk. Did any resonate, do you agree with 9 of them, what would you add (or not)? Please share your thoughts in the comments below, thank you.
I pray that God will help us to seek His will in all our ways and help us to trust Him to direct us, in Jesus’ name, amen.
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