So, on my birthday last year, a lot of people sent kind wishes and prayers which was very sweet and greatly appreciated, the thing though is that, the prayers for a husband for me, had the highest votes, the highest, as in I got more “the Lord will send him” than “May you live long and prosper”, but why?
Anyways, it’s my birthday in 3 days (yay!), so I thought to share a list of some other things you can pray about for me to give you more options when praying for me this time, sweet of me, right?
I know, you are welcome. 🙂
Please, this is not an anti marriage post, I’m not anti marriage, I do want a husband, I pray for and I’m waiting on God expectantly for mine, but then there are other things, just because someone is single doesn’t mean all they need is a husband, like I said, there are other things, here’s some of mine (this is a serious list);
A new television.
A generator – no comments on this please, just pray, thank you.
A new phone – Oh Jehovah Jireh.
Money, good money, lots of it.
Help – Pray it like this, say, “Father, let Sherie find the help she needs as she looks to you.”
Hair growth – my front hair especially aka my edges, no, I’m not planning to start making my hair, I just want my short hair fuller, please pray.
Deliverance from acne – for crying out loud, I’m turning 30 and I still have pimples like a teenager, perhaps one is trapped in me or is it my daughter? Maybe when I have her and she becomes a teenager, I’ll stop having pimples, I don’t even know what I’m saying, please just pray people.
Blog growth – more visitors, more readers, more traffic.
My family – yea, its okay to pray for them for me, on my birthday.
Peace, prosperity, safety & security in Nigeria – its okay too.
I’ll stop here, so it doesn’t look like we’re turning the birthday into some kind of revival but you see, so many others things to pray about.
Oh, one more thing, a car, rain don too beat me for this Lagos.
We trust God to hear and answer our prayers in Jesus name, Amen.
You know how exciting new things can be? That’s how this new year was for me, I was very excited about it, I still am. Though, I usually do not join the new year, new me train but I do set goals for myself, you know, plans et al.
One of the things I wrote down in my journal at the beginning of the year, was to be (more) intentional and in the first 100 days, I have not only intentionally messed up, things have also not gone as I intended.
So, the year had barely even started and I settled, just like that. I don’t mean settle into the new year, I mean settle for, wait for it… a ‘relationship’. Wait, what?! You? The ‘#DontSettle crooner’? Well, yes, me. Can I be transparent? I knew I was settling but I did anyway, you see that’s one funny thing about settling for less, we usually know, we are fully aware that this isn’t it, that we deserve more, we deserve better, yet, we choose to settle.
The year 2016 had more dates than I did (if I did) and that was fine, really, I mean I’m not a calendar or anything like that, so 2016, we’re cool, no beef. Anyway, so I’m happy and proud of myself for making it through the year without settling even when I could, you know, feeling like one ‘unsettler‘ and stepping into 2017 like, I’m ready, let’s do this, then here I was, settling, when I’m not dust (rolling my eyes at me) and I can categorically tell you that those few weeks were pretty miserable. I’ll spare you the details but thankfully, my worth called me out, it called my name like thrice before I responded though but I did respond. I was reminded by that experience that, the knowledge of your worth is your immunity to settling.
Know your worth, don’t settle, if you ever do, I hope you hear and respond when it tries to call you out.
Not too long after that, I had to settle again, this time, my landlord. I had to settle him. My rent was due and my account balance had no clue, my rent money was far from complete. Phew! I was trying not to worry but I was under pressure. Where I wan for see the remaining money? You may want to ask, ” what about your savings?” or something like that, but I’m sorry, we ain’t taking questions today, so as I was saying, lol, my attempt to raise money from a few friends was futile, I prayed for a miracle, I needed one. Meanwhile, I had stopped eating three square meals o, I was now eating two, sometimes one and half and they weren’t exactly square, I was seriously economizing my resources.
Then one day, from nowhere, I got a call, hold your horses, it wasn’t the miracle call, lol, I got a call, from someone I knew I had no business talking to but I decided to play nice, perhaps maybe this is where the miracle will come from, I’m sure when I thought that, ‘They’ looked at me from heaven like, yea right. You know who ‘They’ are now? OK.
So I played nice, in other words, I took the call which I would have otherwise ignored, hoping that from there, maybe there will be more calls and then the miracle (as if you can strategize a miracle). For where? In fact, they haven’t called me again since that day, I even tried hey-big-heading them, but no response, the only explanation for that is, God was looking out for me. God blocks, in His infinite mercy. He doesn’t only open doors, He closes doors too. Truly, He will wreck your plans, before they wreck you, till this day, no response, no call. God is good.
I decided to stay put and stay hopeful, trusting God, worse comes to worst, I’ll go back to my mother’s house in Auchi, but God is faithful, Amen? He came through for me. One night, just before I went to bed after deciding to have sleep for dinner, I got a call, the miracle call… Praise God.
The year has gone from day 1 to 100 real quick and things for me, have gone from 100 to 1 even quicker. It’s been a pretty rough and tough first 100 days, emotionally, mentally, financially and at some point, spiritually. Not so much physically because I keep hearing that I’ve gained weight, now that’s a whole miracle on its own, I mean with my one and half ‘triangle’ meals a day? Lol. It’s only because of God that I don’t look like what I’ve been through.
Well, 100 days gone, the rest of the year to go, I’m not staying down, I’m not giving up, I’m “ forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead” (Philippians 3:13) and I think I’m begin to settle in alright.
Why is this thing underlining harmattan and giving me suggestions like Manhattan?
Happy harmattan season everyone (if you are in Nigeria).
Everywhere is cold, dry and dusty as expected in this season.
It’s actually some people’s favorite season and for some, not so much, I’m somewhere in the middle.
I kind of like the cold, not sweating much, I enjoy doing laundry this season and I enjoy my oily face a lot in this season too but the dust and my OCD don’t get along.
So how are you coping with the harmattan?
Just thought to share some tips to help hack it;
Cover up properly, wear this weather’s friendly clothes.
Cream your body properly after bathing, so you don’t turn white, pay attention to your feet (the heels especially), your knees & elbows too. You can get an oil based cream or creams for dry skin just for this season or Vaseline or just mix your current cream with oil, like olive oil.
Also get a good moisturizer/hair cream for your hair, to make it easier to manage this season and to prevent it from getting all dry & flaky.
Take care of your lips, lip balm for guys, lip balm/ lip gloss for ladies.
It’s a good time to invest in scarves, sweaters, socks and shades.
Remember, there’s dust everywhere now, so always rinse your kitchen utensils before use and if you can cover then with a napkin where they are arranged, fine or they are already in the cabinet, protected from the dust, fine too, it’s still advisable to rinse before use.
Keep windows and doors closed as much as possible to reduce dust, everywhere is cool by the way, the nation’s natural AC has been turned on, lol.
Keep your house and surroundings as clean as possible and plan to do a thorough clean up when the season is over.
Take preventive measures against fire out break this season and have a fire extinguisher at your disposal.
If you have to spread your clothes outside, don’t leave them out all day, so they don’t get dry and start collecting dust.
If you have to go out early in the morning, have a torch-light handy as it’s usually foggy in the mornings.
Be hygiene conscious, there’s cold, sneezing, catarrh, even coughing, in the air, wash your hands regularly and keep a hand cream handy.
Drink water and eat fruits, a lot.
I hope this helps, got any more hacks or one not listed, kindly share in the comments, thank you.
It was less than 3 days to Christmas, when daddy died.
Oh, how we cried,
though now, our tears, we’ve dried,
yet, every yuletide,
down this memory lane, we take a ride.
How have we managed without you?
We were so unsure then, how our lives would go on.
On 22.12.2000, it seemed like our world had ended.
I remember, just like it was yesterday.
You had been ill for some days, mum was also ill and you were even treating her, you were home not admitted, family & friends popping in every now & then to check on you.
On 22nd morning, a Friday, you woke up and went to the guest room and asked me to make you a cup of tea, which I did, you also said something about the fan and I can still see your face, your eyes looking at me as I fiddled with it, trying to make sure I got what you wanted. I remember not being very smart that morning ( I’ve not always been a morning person), if only I had known that those were my last moments with you…
Mum went in and spent some time with you, some of your friends also stopped by that morning, they were in the guest room with you…
At about 9am, you passed, just like that.
They carried you out after asking for a shirt for you, saying you had agreed to go to the hospital, they carried you out, that was the last time I saw you.
Gosh, I’ve missed you!
You were such a brilliant, smart and fine man, Dr Habeeb, with such a big heart, so kind, you touched so many lives, such a nice, yet no-nonsense man.
Your legacy sure lives on.
Though busy, you made time for us, I remember you at being around at meals, at birthdays, at holidays, spending time with us in the evenings.
I remember how you’d say “don’t be silly” with a stern look, to me when I was being naughty.
I remember you doing most of the school runs, even when I was in boarding school in Delta state, you’d always drop & pick me up, when I was sick, it was you who came, even on most visiting days.
I didn’t quite like traveling with you then because of all the questions you ask, my God, is it a doctor’s thing, asking questions?
I remember one time we were traveling and we saw pigs, you asked me what they were, I thought to myself, this man should know that I know pigs so if he is asking me what these are, maybe they are not pigs, so I said I don’t know and you said, “you don’t know pigs?” Lol
I remember coming home on holidays to a novel or some book waiting for me to read.
I remember, I & Hafiz eating with you.
I remember how you encouraged us to always do our best…
I’m thankful that I have these sweet memories of you, great moments shared with you, can’t put it all in words.
Remember this letter, I wrote it to you when I was in school, it was an assignment, written out of duty and it was somewhat crappy but this, I’m writing from my heart, to let you know that you are always in my heart, I LOVE YOU, I MISS YOU and I’M SO GLAD AND PROUD YOU WERE MY DAD.
Mum has been amazing. She sometimes jokes that we should be glad that she didn’t run out on us, lol, I mean, you left her with F.I.V.E kids, the oldest being 13, wow!
We are more than glad she didn’t run out on us (we know she wouldn’t have), we are forever grateful for such a beautiful, strong, selfless, strong again, simply amazing woman.
Hafiz is tall now, lol, yes, he’s all grown up and prides himself as the man of the house and he’s not doing a bad job, he’s more loving now and hardly makes any trouble. Remember when he practically drove your car, the Benz for that matter, into a ditch, lol, he’s a better driver now. He’s done with school & doing his youth service at the moment.
Taofi & Taiba, Oh my God, dad, you have the prettiest, smartest, wittiest, intelligent, know what they are doing & where they are going, set of twins ever. It was just 3 weeks to their 6th birthday, when you left but they are all grown up now and they think the world of you. Guess who just graduated? Yes sir, you guessed it.
Taiba, specially wants you to know, that she misses you and wishes you were here to see how far she’s gone and how beautiful, she’s become.
Zafi aka Baby, barely 2 when you left, has grown into a sweet, pretty young lady, making everyone proud, plus she’s the celebrity in the family, yes oh, we’ve got one, she’s makes trouble every now and then but it’s just between her and mum, nothing to worry about, she turned out fine.
You should be very proud sir.
And me? Oh well, I write now, I know you’d like that and I didn’t end up as a pharmacist or banker as we used to talk about, I ended up in engineering and I’m working in that line. I’m not married yet, I guess you know because I think I had a dream the other day, of you asking me when I’m getting married? Anyways…
We really miss you dad, we can’t stop imagining what it would have been like if you were here, so much has changed, so much.
16 years today since you left, I just wanted to let you know, on behalf of the family, that WE LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU ALWAYS.
Continue to rest in peace, don’t worry, we are doing okay, God is taking care of us.