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31 Random Thoughts As I Turn 31

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Hi there,

Birthday girl here.

It’s my birthday and to celebrate here, I’m sharing some thoughts that’ll probably make you go hmmm, huh or perhaps, hahaha…

Here we go;

      1. God is good, His plans are better, He knows best. Trust Him.
      2. God’s going to do what He’s going to do, no one or thing can thwart His plans and purpose.
      3. You can totally trust God, He loves you and He’s got your best interest at heart.
      4. Yes, God loves you but He also wants you to grow up.
      5. You can’t have a godly relationship without having a relationship with God.
      6. Relationships don’t make you happy, happy people make happy relationships.
      7. “The one” is human just like you.
      8. You want to submit to a man who submits to God.
      9. God heals the brokenhearted. Yes, broken hearts heal, mine did.
      10. If life had a remote control, I bet singleness won’t be its pause button.
      11. You don’t have to have a life partner to enjoy your life, you just need to partner with “The Life”.
      12. It matters to make Jesus the heart of the matter in matters of the heart.
      13. Your mistakes do not define you, don’t let them confine you.
      14. To thyself be loving.
      15. Waiting on God is never a waste of time.
      16. It’s okay if your life looks different from other people, even if they are the same sex or the same age as you, know that no matter how wonderful someone else’s life looks to you because of what they have that you don’t or what they are doing that you’re not, your life isn’t any less wonderful.
      17. You don’t have to have it all figured out, you couldn’t if you tried but what you can do and should do, is trust God, He has it all figured out.
      18. Rest but don’t quit.
      19. Cast, not carry. Cast your cares.
      20. Lose control to God.
      21. I’ll never understand people who argue with me that I’m not single. I say I’m single, you say I’m not, is it your single?
      22. Two things are hard for a girl; Letting shoes that don’t fit go and listening to herself when she can tell a guy doesn’t really like her.
      23. Final answer, not settling? Final answer, not settling.
      24. know your worth. You’re who God says you are, your worth is found in Him, not in their validation or your acquisitions.
      25. Sometimes, singleness feels like being stuck between looking at the time and looking at God. Not looking at God like looking onto Him for help and strength now, but looking at Him like, Lord, can you see the time sir?
      26. Don’t fret when anyone tells you “time is going”, the way I see it , you should rejoice and be glad because if time is going, that means it’s moving , not stuck and as it moves, it will get to your turn, so in actual sense, it just means your time is coming.
      27. Y’all, everyday of my life, I need Jesus and if I’m going to share my life with anyone, it has to be with someone who loves Jesus and will love me like Jesus.
      28. The God who sent His son, Jesus, to establish a relationship with you and save you from hell, won’t send you someone, who will put you through hell in a relationship, that’s how you’ll know.
      29. Hear ye me sis, “man no be man & no be just to marry o” – you can’t marry just anyone & you don’t just marry for the fun of it.
      30. “The most wonderful people don’t always marry first”? Oook, I think I’ve been wonderful enough, I’m done, can I marry now please?
      31. Life please don’t give me lemons, I don’t like lemonade. Got a man? I mean, mangoes, got some mangoes?

Thanks for reading, so which ones made you go hmmm or huh or hahaha?

PS: If you wanted an update on No.7 from the 29 things I shared about me here, this photo below says it all. 🙂  

NoNewsOnMyLoveLife

 

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Great Chemistry And Other ‘Subjects’

chemistry

So, you guys have great chemistry?

That’s a plus actually or should I say A+ 🙂 , but how are guys in other ‘subjects’?

Okay, before you give me the look like, “whatchu talkin’ about girl”?

Here’s what I mean;

English: How’s communication between you two?

Mathematics: Are you good at finding ways to resolve issues, when they arise?

Physics: Maintaining the “spark” is important, you know.

Economics: Money matters. Do you give, save, invest and spend wisely?

Government: Who’s your Lord? Who are you guys submitted to?

CRS: Do you guys study the word?

History: How well do you know each other?

Geography: How are you working towards where you are going to spend the rest of your lives (eternity)?

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Social Studies: How do you guys relate to/with other people apart from yourselves?

Home Economics: Body management? Any odours, you know? Home management, general home keeping? (As individuals)

Do work hard on all subjects, you guys.

Your coming together may have been “magical” but staying together requires a little more.

All the best.

PS: I cannot categorically tell or ask you about Biology now… 🙂

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Trust His Blueprint

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If only from the starting point,

we learn to see things from God’s view-point,

and make it our focal point,

perhaps,

we would avoid these relationships that are disjointed

and leave us disappointed.

There’s a blueprint,

time appointed,

one anointed,

that fits His intended end point

for you,

but more often than not,

it takes a breaking point,

for us to reach a turning point,

where we eventually get the point

and see the need

to work with Him.

You can trust His blueprint

for you,

it’s on point.

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Other things you can pray about for me apart from a husband (Birthday prayer guide)

birthdaySo, on my birthday last year, a lot of people sent kind wishes and prayers which was very sweet and greatly appreciated, the thing though is that, the prayers for a husband for me, had  the highest votes, the highest, as in I got more “the Lord will send him” than “May you live long and prosper”, but why?

Anyways, it’s my birthday in 3 days (yay!), so I thought to share a list of some other things you can pray about for me to give you more options when praying for me this time, sweet of me, right?

I know, you are welcome. 🙂

Please, this is not an anti marriage post, I’m not anti marriage, I do want a husband, I pray for and I’m waiting on God expectantly for mine, but then there are other things, just because someone is single doesn’t mean all they need is a husband, like I said, there are other things, here’s some of mine (this is a serious list);

  • A new television.
  • A generator – no comments on this please, just pray, thank you.
  • A new phone – Oh Jehovah Jireh.
  • Money, good money, lots of it.
  • Help – Pray it like this, say, “Father, let Sherie find the help she needs as she looks to you.”
  • Hair growth – my front hair especially aka my edges, no, I’m not planning to start making my hair, I just want my short hair fuller, please pray.
  • Deliverance from acne – for crying out loud, I’m turning 30 and I still have pimples like a teenager, perhaps one is trapped in me or is it my daughter? Maybe when I have her and she becomes a teenager, I’ll stop having pimples, I don’t even know what I’m saying, please just pray people.
  • Blog growth – more visitors, more readers, more traffic.
  • My family – yea, its okay to pray for them for me, on my birthday.
  • Peace, prosperity, safety & security in Nigeria – its okay too.

I’ll stop here, so it doesn’t look like we’re turning the birthday into some kind of revival but you see, so many others things to pray about.

Oh, one more thing, a car, rain don too beat me for this Lagos.

We trust God to hear and answer our prayers in Jesus name, Amen.

#FunnyNotFunny

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My first 100 days in 2017

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You know how exciting new things can be? That’s how this new year was for me, I was very excited about it, I still am.  Though, I usually do not join the new year, new me train but I do set goals for myself, you know, plans et al.

One of the things I wrote down in my journal at the beginning of the year, was to be (more) intentional and in the first 100 days, I have not only intentionally messed up, things have also not gone as I intended.

So, the year had barely even started and I settled, just like that. I don’t mean settle into the new year, I mean settle for, wait for it… a ‘relationship’.  Wait, what?! You? The ‘#DontSettle crooner’?  Well, yes, me. Can I be transparent? I knew I was settling but I did anyway, you see that’s one funny thing about settling for less, we usually know, we are fully aware that this isn’t it, that we deserve more, we deserve better, yet, we choose to settle.

The year 2016 had more dates than I did (if I did) and that was fine, really, I mean I’m not a calendar or anything like that, so 2016, we’re cool, no beef.  Anyway, so I’m happy and proud of myself for making it through the year without settling even when I could, you know,  feeling like one ‘unsettler‘ and stepping into 2017 like, I’m ready, let’s do this, then here I was, settling, when I’m not dust (rolling my eyes at me) and I can categorically tell you that those few weeks were pretty miserable.  I’ll spare you the details but thankfully, my worth called me out, it called my name like thrice before I responded though but I did respond.  I was reminded by that experience that, the knowledge of your worth is your immunity to settling.

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Know your worth, don’t settle, if you ever do, I hope you hear and respond when it tries to call you out.

Not too long after that, I had to settle again, this time, my landlord. I had to settle him. My rent was due and my account balance had no clue, my rent money was far from complete. Phew! I was trying not to worry but I was under pressure. Where I wan for see the remaining money?  You may want to ask, ” what about your savings?” or something like that,  but I’m sorry, we ain’t taking questions today, so as I was saying, lol, my attempt to raise money from a few friends was futile, I prayed for a miracle, I needed one. Meanwhile, I had stopped eating three square meals o, I was now eating two, sometimes one and half and they weren’t exactly square, I was seriously economizing my resources.

Then one day, from nowhere, I got a call, hold your horses, it wasn’t the miracle call, lol, I got a call, from someone I knew I had no business talking to but I decided to play nice, perhaps maybe this is where the miracle will come from, I’m sure when I thought that, ‘They’ looked at me from heaven like, yea right. You know who ‘They’ are now? OK.

So I played nice, in other words, I took the call which I would have otherwise ignored, hoping that from there, maybe there will be more calls and then the miracle (as if you can strategize a miracle). For where? In fact, they haven’t called me again since that day, I even tried hey-big-heading them, but no response, the only explanation for that is, God was looking out for me.  God blocks, in His infinite mercy. He doesn’t only open doors, He closes doors too. Truly, He will wreck your plans, before they wreck you, till this day, no response, no call. God is good.

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I decided to stay put and stay hopeful, trusting God, worse comes to worst, I’ll go back to my mother’s house in Auchi, but God is faithful, Amen? He came through for me. One night, just before I went to bed after deciding to have sleep for dinner, I got a call, the miracle call… Praise God.

The year has gone from day 1 to 100 real quick and things for me, have gone from  100 to 1 even quicker. It’s been a pretty rough and tough first 100 days, emotionally, mentally, financially and at some point, spiritually. Not so much physically because I keep hearing that I’ve gained weight, now that’s a whole miracle on its own, I mean with my one and half ‘triangle’ meals a day? Lol. It’s only because of God that I don’t look like what I’ve been through.

Well, 100 days gone, the rest of the year to go, I’m not staying down, I’m not giving up, I’m “ forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead” (Philippians 3:13) and I think I’m begin to settle in alright.

How has your year been?

Be encouraged.

 

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Tips to help hack the harmattan.

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Why is this thing underlining harmattan and giving me suggestions like Manhattan?

Happy harmattan season everyone (if you are in Nigeria).

Everywhere is cold, dry and dusty as expected in this season.

It’s actually some people’s favorite season and for some, not so much, I’m somewhere in the middle.

I kind of like the cold, not sweating much, I enjoy doing laundry this season and I enjoy my oily face a lot in this season too but the dust and my OCD don’t get along.

So how are you coping with the harmattan?

Just thought to share some tips to help hack it;

  1.  Cover up properly, wear this weather’s friendly clothes.
  2. Cream your body properly after bathing, so you don’t turn white, pay attention to your feet (the heels especially), your knees & elbows too. You can get an oil based cream or creams for dry skin just for this season or Vaseline or just mix your current cream with oil, like olive oil.
  3.  Also get a good moisturizer/hair cream for your hair, to make it easier to manage this season and to prevent it from getting all dry & flaky.
  4. Take care of your lips, lip balm for guys, lip balm/ lip gloss for ladies.
  5. It’s a good time to invest in scarves, sweaters, socks and shades.
  6. Remember, there’s dust everywhere now, so always rinse your kitchen utensils before use and if you can cover then with a napkin where they are arranged, fine or they are already in the cabinet, protected from the dust, fine too, it’s still advisable to rinse before use.
  7.  Keep windows and doors closed as much as possible to reduce dust, everywhere is cool by the way, the nation’s natural AC has been turned on, lol.
  8. Keep your house and surroundings as clean as possible and plan to do a thorough clean up when the season is over.
  9. Take preventive measures against fire out break this season and have a fire extinguisher at your disposal.
  10. If you have to spread your clothes outside, don’t leave them out all day, so they don’t get dry and start collecting dust.
  11. If you have to go out early in the morning, have a torch-light handy as it’s usually foggy in the mornings.
  12. Be hygiene conscious, there’s cold, sneezing, catarrh, even coughing, in the air, wash your hands regularly and keep a hand cream handy.
  13.  Drink water and eat fruits, a lot.

I hope this helps, got any more hacks or one not listed, kindly share in the comments, thank you.