Encouragement For Singles

#WIFE: Go For A Man Who’s Submitted To God


Daughter of God, go for a man who’s submitted to your Father, yea, you are totally allowed to be a daddy’s girl about this and He’s going to be so proud of you because that’s what He wants for you ( II Corinthians 6:14).

And oh, the perks!

A man who is submitted to God practically allows himself to be led by the Spirit of God, he chooses to live and do things God’s way and the fruit of Spirit will definitely not fall far from him.

“… the fruit of the [Holy] Spirit [the work which His presence within accomplishes] is love, joy (gladness), peace, patience (an even temper, forbearance), kindness, goodness (benevolence), faithfulness, gentleness (meekness, humility), self-control (self-restraint, continence)…” Galatians 5:22-23 (AMPC)

See how the message version puts it;

“But what happens when we live God’s way? He brings gifts into our lives, much the same way that fruit appears in an orchard—things like affection for others, exuberance about life, serenity. We develop a willingness to stick with things, a sense of compassion in the heart, and a conviction that a basic holiness permeates things and people. We find ourselves involved in loyal commitments, not needing to force our way in life, able to marshal and direct our energies wisely.”

Wow!  Affection, compassion, commitment… Wouldn’t you just love a man who consistently displays these?

A man who loves and is submitted to Jesus, has a fine, no scratch that, has the finest example on how to love you and you will enjoy the effects of his relationship with God, trust me girl, you want this kind of man, this is the kind of man you want to submit to.

If you’ve got one, appreciate him and keep growing in the Lord together.

If you haven’t got one yet, wait on God for him, trust me, it will be worth the wait, for “God proves to be good to the man who passionately waits, to the woman who diligently seeks.” (Lamentations 3:25)

Be encouraged.

Happy Wednesday.


Encouragement For Singles

When It Was You Not Him

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He doesn’t always make all the mistakes, we all make mistakes, she makes some too.

Popular opinion is usually that it’s him, not you but sometimes sis, it’s us, we know, just keeping it real here.

Well, look who’s not getting all defensive, you grown girl! High five!

Okay, so the relationship went under and you realize the part you played, though you did your best to work things out, for some reasons ‘things’ did not cooperate with you and the relationship ended anyway.  What to do? What to know?

LET IT GO; You tried, you really tried (I know, been there, done that, ain’t got a t-shirt though) you apologized, tried to make amends but they made their choice, it’s okay, don’t hold it against them. Look at it this way, do you really want someone who doesn’t want you (anymore)? You don’t want to be fighting for the relationship alone, they should at least meet you half way or quarter way or less (since it was you not him), you don’t want to be in a relationship where it  feels like someone is doing you a favor by staying with you, so let it go and move on, there’s someone out there who will obtain favor just by finding you.


YOU ARE STILL WORTH IT; Your mistakes do not  define you, don’t let them confine you. You are not worthless because you made a mess, it’s what you did, not who you are, “for a righteous man (woman) falls seven times & rises again…” (Proverbs 24:16) (Parenthesis added by me) What happened? He fell. Who fell? A righteous man.  He wasn’t described as a fallen man because he fell. You see?




RISE AGAIN, BEGIN AGAIN;  God’s grace is  available to help us change for the better, so begin again, stronger, wiser, more mature, equipped with lessons to do better next time.

Oh yes.

THERE WILL BE A NEXT TIME;  “ Behold, I will do a new thing…” (Isaiah 49:19) Perhaps, you went through all of that to prepare you to for it, the new thing, so don’t fret,  God’s got you, trust Him, love yourself, live your life and don’t settle, when it’s time, the Lord will make it happen.

Be encouraged.

*Image from pixabay.com*


Encouragement For Singles · Everything Else

Trust His Blueprint


If only from the starting point,

we learn to see things from God’s view-point,

and make it our focal point,


we would avoid these relationships that are disjointed

and leave us disappointed.

There’s a blueprint,

time appointed,

one anointed,

that fits His intended end point

for you,

but more often than not,

it takes a breaking point,

for us to reach a turning point,

where we eventually get the point

and see the need

to work with Him.

You can trust His blueprint

for you,

it’s on point.

*Image from pixabay.com


Encouragement For Singles

#WIFE: You don’t think you deserve a good man?

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Dear girl,

So you have a past, things you’ve done that you are not proud of, some of them don’t even add up, you can’t believe you did them, some you even made sure nobody heard of but, you’ve received the mercy and forgiveness of God and you are walking in newness of life, yet, sometimes you wonder, do I deserve a good man, will a good man want me, I’ve made such a mess in the past, I’ll be lucky to even have anyone, I’ll just settle for anyone, at least that’s better than nothing.

Okay sis, hold that thought, can I tell you something, girl with a past to girl with a past?

Jesus didn’t die on the cross , He didn’t shed His precious blood, give His life, for you to have anything less than what He wants you to have, if He could give you His life when you didn’t even know Him, in your sinful state, how much more now that you know and are committed to Him?

He says, “I came that they may have and enjoy life and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows)” – John 10:10 AMPC, settling for less won’t give you that, you don’t have to settle girl.

Remember the story of the prodigal son, one of the lessons, for me, in that story is that, just because you’ve made a mess in the past doesn’t mean you have to settle for less, having returned to Jesus, there’s no room for less in Jesus.

When the prodigal son came back to his senses, he said I’ll go back to my father, I don’t mind being a servant, I’ll even ask him to make me one but when he got home what happened, simply put, He was reinstated. (Luke 15:11-32)

What about Abraham and Sarah, they went out of God’s will to get Ishmael but didn’t He still give them Isaac, the promise?

A friend of mine puts it this way, “when we return to God, in His mercies, he takes us back into His ARMS and PLANS”, you don’t have to settle for less, no mess you’ve made is bigger than the price Jesus paid, you may have blown it a few times but God can still blow your mind. Trust Him.

This is not to encourage sin, like, do what you like, God still got you, no.

For shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? God forbid.

It’s about now that you have repented and returned and about knowing that you are still family.

Do you deserve a good man?

Does any of us deserve anything good really? But for God’s mercy and grace.

It’s not about what you deserve, it’s about whose you are, who you serve.

“He who did not withhold or spare (even) His own son but gave Him up for us all, will He not also with Him freely and graciously, give us all (other) things?” – Romans 8:32 AMPC

Jesus makes all the difference.

A man is good not because of what he has or hasn’t done but because of what Christ has done and a  man who is in Christ understands that he’s a recipient of grace, he’ll appreciate the work of God’s grace on your life and freely give you (grace) as he has received.

Trust that if God has marriage in His plans for you, then He has this kind of man reserved for you, one He has graced to love you unconditionally, past your past, as He loves you and intends for you to be loved. (Ephesians 5:25)

God did not save you for you to spend the rest of your life unhappy (because you settled).

Just like a good man, you are a ‘good thing’ girl not because of who you are or what you’ve done but because of who Jesus is and what He’s done.

Won’t a good man want a good thing? What’s not to want in the daughter of a King, who will bring him favor?

Rest in this girl, you have a good Father, who loves you, thinks good thoughts of you, has good plans for you, works all things out for your good, gives good gifts to His children not because they are good but because He is good, He’s got you.

Be encouraged.


Encouragement For Singles · Everything Else

Other things you can pray about for me apart from a husband (Birthday prayer guide)

birthdaySo, on my birthday last year, a lot of people sent kind wishes and prayers which was very sweet and greatly appreciated, the thing though is that, the prayers for a husband for me, had  the highest votes, the highest, as in I got more “the Lord will send him” than “May you live long and prosper”, but why?

Anyways, it’s my birthday in 3 days (yay!), so I thought to share a list of some other things you can pray about for me to give you more options when praying for me this time, sweet of me, right?

I know, you are welcome. 🙂

Please, this is not an anti marriage post, I’m not anti marriage, I do want a husband, I pray for and I’m waiting on God expectantly for mine, but then there are other things, just because someone is single doesn’t mean all they need is a husband, like I said, there are other things, here’s some of mine (this is a serious list);

  • A new television.
  • A generator – no comments on this please, just pray, thank you.
  • A new phone – Oh Jehovah Jireh.
  • Money, good money, lots of it.
  • Help – Pray it like this, say, “Father, let Sherie find the help she needs as she looks to you.”
  • Hair growth – my front hair especially aka my edges, no, I’m not planning to start making my hair, I just want my short hair fuller, please pray.
  • Deliverance from acne – for crying out loud, I’m turning 30 and I still have pimples like a teenager, perhaps one is trapped in me or is it my daughter? Maybe when I have her and she becomes a teenager, I’ll stop having pimples, I don’t even know what I’m saying, please just pray people.
  • Blog growth – more visitors, more readers, more traffic.
  • My family – yea, its okay to pray for them for me, on my birthday.
  • Peace, prosperity, safety & security in Nigeria – its okay too.

I’ll stop here, so it doesn’t look like we’re turning the birthday into some kind of revival but you see, so many others things to pray about.

Oh, one more thing, a car, rain don too beat me for this Lagos.

We trust God to hear and answer our prayers in Jesus name, Amen.


Encouragement For Singles

#WIFE: Well Done For Not Settling

No settlingHappy New Month!

So last month, last week Wednesday precisely, #WIFE went live (I just like saying it like that 🙂 ), yea, so it did and in case you are just hearing about it, #WIFE stands for Wednesday Is For Encouragement, by God’s grace every Wednesday, you can find something encouraging here, especially for the single ladies

Today, I just want to say well done for making it through the month of  June without settling, well done sis, shabash!

Haven’t settled for first half of the year? Double well done! Some of us have,  thankfully, we didn’t stay settling. Choosing not to settle is not an easy feat, you should be very proud of yourself.

Dont settle

Look at you knowing what you want and holding out for it, refusing to settle for less than God’s best for you, refusing to be with just anybody just to claim somebody, refusing to edit happiness out of your life just to accommodate someone, refusing to deal with one who doesn’t recognize or appreciate your worth, refusing to settle for games, projects & potential without progress, refusing to subtract for one who can not add, not because you’re being too picky or you have unrealistic standards or anything else but because you know your worth, you know who and whose you are, what you want and deserve and Who you are waiting on. Cheers to knowing your worth. You go girl!

I’m sure God’s proud of you too, for choosing to trust Him. No doubt, waiting can be hard, the temptation to settle can be seemingly irresistible, when it seems like you are being left out, coupled with pressures and whatnot but you are doing good, don’t stop getting better and keep not settling, you don’t have to settle with one you are not down with, just because you want to settle down.


Remember, you’ve got this girl, because God’s got you and He says “…they shall not be put to shame who wait for, look for, hope for, and expect Me.” (Isaiah 49:23c)

Be encouraged.