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Don’t Find X, Trust God

In the equation of life, time (t) may be unknown (x) to us, but it’s not to God, and He’s not like our math teacher asking us to find x, He wants us to know instead, that He is the constant, He doesn’t change, we can trust Him.

Not to mention, all the ‘x’ we found when we were in school, who or how has it helped? Lol, but seriously though, what’s the use of worrying about what you have no control over?

Timing, the bible says, is the Father’s business. (Acts 1:7)

So, rest girl.

Rest in the fact that, you may not know when, but you know the One who does.

Trust Him, trust God.

Be encouraged.

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Susie’s Successful, Tracy’s Thriving, What’s Wrong With Me?

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No offence  please, if you are reading this and your name is Susie or Tracy, but can you relate?

Susie’s successful, she seems to have everything I desire on a platter and we are age mates.

Tracy’s thriving, already doing things I thought I would have done by now and I knew her when she was practically a baby.

Scrolling through social media and going “oh, how nice” on a friend’s photo but deep down, feeling left out.

Why is mine taking time, why do I have to wait? Why can’t I have what she has? What on earth is wrong with me?

You (sometimes) wonder.

First of all, nothing is wrong with you, God just has a different plan for your life.

What you should not do is compare yourself with someone else, the bible says, it’s not a wise thing to do.

 Not that we [have the audacity to] venture to class or [even to] compare ourselves with some who exalt and furnish testimonials for themselves! However, when they measure themselves with themselves and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding and behave unwisely. – 2 Corinthians 10:12

I can understand the tendency to expect certain things to happen in your life at a particular time or as it seems to happen for others but there’s something I’ve learnt over time, something called God’s plan. He has one for everyone.

The bible talks about us being formed in secret, that to me, buttresses the point that, there’s something unique about each of us. Each, wonderfully & fearfully made. (Psalms 139:14-15)

No matter how wonderful someone else’s life looks to you because of what they have, that you don’t or what they are doing, that you are not, your life isn’t any less wonderful.

If you are like me, you probably didn’t grow up knowing that God had a plan for your life, you grew up expecting things to follow the order of the system you met.

Many unmet expectations/unfulfilled-desires-in-your-timeline later,  you are probably learning, as I am, that God has a plan for your life, one obviously different from the one you had or what you thought it should be, a plan that no one, not even you, can thwart  because even if  we grew up under conditions that were not quite in His plan for us, He has a way of leading us back to His plan – usually the hard way.

You are probably learning, as I recently read somewhere, “that sometimes we make our plans, and sometimes we surrender to plans”.

My plan was something like this – finish school, get a job/make lots of money, get married by latest 25 (lol, yea, I actually said latest 25, when it didn’t happen at 25, I moved the timeline to 28, lol), have 3 kids by 30-31 and just live happily ever after. Talk about being naive.

Now the thing is, I know some ladies whose plans also kinda looked like that and theirs seemed to have worked out for them but for me, 5 years after when I thought I’d be a wife, I’m not, instead I’m a writer, encouraging – you guessed it – single ladies like myself (and happily so). I’ve always loved writing but I certainly didn’t see this coming, now that’s just one of the many discoveries in what I’d call (if it was a movie), ‘So I thought I had a plan.’


Bottom line, God has a plan for your life, different from everyone else’s, different, most of the time, from the one you had for yourself.

What you should do is stop expecting your life to look or turn out like everybody else’s or look like the image society portrays, but rather trust and seek God for His plan for your life and embrace it because being in God’s plan, where He wants you to be, doing what He wants you to do, that’s the true measure of success, your being faithful where God has you, is what truly matters.

Being faithful means remaining loyal and steadfast, staying true to the facts or the original; stop comparing yourself with everybody else and be faithful to you, live your truth and be free.

Focus on being the best you, not trying to be like someone else or trying to be better than someone else.

It’s not about being ahead or behind, it’s about being faithful where God has you.

Know that,  ‘yet to happen’ is not synonymous with ‘abandoned’.

Thus says the Lord, “I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.” – Jeremiah 29:11

So, “delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires and secret petitions of your heart” (Psalms 37:4) but, the thing with delighting yourself in the Lord is, as you do, you begin to desire more and more what He wants for you not what you want for yourself, as you delight yourself in the Lord, you ultimately surrender to His plans and release the ones you had.

Now, that may mean that your life looks different from others but it also means that it looks just the way God wants it, and trust me girl, that’s what you want.

So, as Sharon Jaynes says, let go of comparison and take hold of your God fashioned uniqueness.

Love and live the life that God has given you, knowing that wherever He has you now, He’s grace is available and sufficient for you.

PS: You saw the part where I said, nothing is wrong you, yea?

Be encouraged.

*Image with the ladies from pixabay.com


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So They Say Time Is Going


They say time is going.

Well yea, it’s going to get to mine.

It may seem to be tarrying,

but it’s going to get to mine.

There’s no cause for worrying,

for it’s going to get to mine.

My steps, God’s ordering,

guiding me to mine,

there’s no point hurrying,

He’s perfecting  me for mine.

So, though they say time is going,

He says there’s a right timing

and I believe that time is coming.

So yea, time is going,

going to get to mine.

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Dear Single Sister: Rock Your Lane Girl

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Three times I called upon the Lord and besought [Him] about this and begged that it might depart from me; But He said to me, My grace (My favor and loving-kindness and mercy) is enough for you…” – 2 Corinthians 12:8-9 AMPC

That was Apostle Paul, talking to God about the thorn in His flesh, but can you relate?

How many times have you prayed to God about your singleness?

About how much longer you have to wait for a spouse?

About why you are the only one still single of all your friends?

About how you are not getting any younger?

How many times have you begged God to take you out of the single season already?

I’m guessing more than three times?

I can’t tell you why He hasn’t answered as you would have liked, but if God still has you in the lane of singleness, then trust that His grace is available and sufficient for you to run therein.

His grace – favor, loving kindness and mercy – is available and enough for you.

So, …don’t be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God’s place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life…” -1 Corinthians 7:17 MSG (emphasis added)

I love how it says, live… right there, because some of us are waiting… to start living our lives, but as I would say;

You don’t need to have a life partner to live or enjoy your life, you just need to partner with the Life – Jesus.

Maybe you should go from, “why am I still single” to “what can I do while I’m still single?”

Maybe you should go from, “of what use is it being single”, to “Lord, how can I serve you in my singleness, use me in this season, Lord.”

Maybe you should go from being miserable in your singleness to ministering in your singleness, blessing lives, letting your light shine, to the glory of your Father in heaven.

Maybe you should begin to rock your lane, sis.

Wherever God (currently) has you, He’s able to make all grace abound towards you… He’s with you, He’s got you.

Surely, the bible says, His goodness, mercy and unfailing love follows us all the days of our lives… (Psalms 23:6), all the days – good days, bad days, great days, single days, hard-being-single days, love-being-single days, married days – all. the. days. of. our. lives. girl, His goodness, mercy and unfailing love, follows us. How great is that?!

He’s not less good to you or less merciful because you are single, nor does He love you any less than the sister who is married.

You know that, right?

So, being confident of this, be brave, courageous, wait patiently for the Lord and ROCK the lane He has you in, girl.

Be encouraged.

PS: For the purpose of this post, my definition of ‘rock’ is;

Relying on God’s grace, goodness and His strength,

Own your lane

Confidently, comparing not, but minding yours,

Keep going, looking only to Jesus, trusting Him.

How would you define rocking your lane? Do share in the comments. Thank you.

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#WIFE: Better’s Never Behind

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“But forget all that, it is nothing compared to what I am going to do.
For I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it?”

– God, your Redeemer (Isaiah 43:18-19)

If God has brought you out of something, be encouraged to let go and move on, trust that He has something better for you, He says the plans He has for you are of good and not of evil… (Jeremiah 29:11)

You may not see it immediately, you may not feel it either but trust Him, trust Him, trust Him.

Be encouraged.


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#WIFE: Some Encouragement For Valentine’s Day

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Does it feel like you are standing outside Noah’s ark today, everyone’s paired up but you?

Is the red everywhere making you blue?

You’d rather not be having alone time on valentine?

Yes, Valentine’s not just for lovers, it’s a day to also show love to others but after all said and done, you still wish you had a significant other?

Feeling left out? Lonely? Frustrated?

Beloved, can I encourage you?

The bible says, “and after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace [Who imparts all blessing and favor], Who has called you to His [own] eternal glory in Christ Jesus, will Himself complete and make you what you ought to be, establish and ground you securely, and strengthen, and settle you.” – 1 Peter 5:10 AMPC

Now, I’m not saying you are suffering because you don’t have a sweetheart on Valentine’s day but I know it’s hard, it can be painful and it’s not always enjoyable.

So, here’s some encouragement drawn from the bible passage quoted above;

  • The ‘suffering’ won’t last forever. You won’t always be alone on Valentine’s day. Just because it hasn’t happened yet, doesn’t mean it won’t happen.
  • You want to trust and rest in God rather than being desperate because all blessings and favor, including the blessing of a spouse, comes from Him.
  • Just because things are not going as you expected doesn’t mean God has abandoned you. He’s with you, working as you wait.
  • God has plans to settle you, don’t let ‘suffering’ make you settle for less than God has planned for you. It may be hard but it’s best to wait on God.

A few more things (not from the bible passage quoted);

  • However you choose to spend today, remember that you are loved. God loves you so much, it may sound cliché but He really does, like cwwwaaaaazzzieee!
  • You are not less than, you are not left out or missing out (not if you are where God has you at this time).
  • Don’t compare yourself with anyone else.
  • It’s okay if you decide to lay off social media today.
  • It’s better to be alone, being prepared for what you ought to have, than to have what you ought not, in order to not be alone.
  • It’s not a bad idea to do something nice for someone today, it could bring you some cheer.

One more thing;

You know we love you here, right?

We do! ❤

Happy Valentine’s Day.

Be encouraged.