Encouragement For Singles

#WIFE: Go For A Man Who’s Submitted To God


Daughter of God, go for a man who’s submitted to your Father, yea, you are totally allowed to be a daddy’s girl about this and He’s going to be so proud of you because that’s what He wants for you ( II Corinthians 6:14).

And oh, the perks!

A man who is submitted to God practically allows himself to be led by the Spirit of God, he chooses to live and do things God’s way and the fruit of Spirit will definitely not fall far from him.

“… the fruit of the [Holy] Spirit [the work which His presence within accomplishes] is love, joy (gladness), peace, patience (an even temper, forbearance), kindness, goodness (benevolence), faithfulness, gentleness (meekness, humility), self-control (self-restraint, continence)…” Galatians 5:22-23 (AMPC)

See how the message version puts it;

“But what happens when we live God’s way? He brings gifts into our lives, much the same way that fruit appears in an orchard—things like affection for others, exuberance about life, serenity. We develop a willingness to stick with things, a sense of compassion in the heart, and a conviction that a basic holiness permeates things and people. We find ourselves involved in loyal commitments, not needing to force our way in life, able to marshal and direct our energies wisely.”

Wow!  Affection, compassion, commitment… Wouldn’t you just love a man who consistently displays these?

A man who loves and is submitted to Jesus, has a fine, no scratch that, has the finest example on how to love you and you will enjoy the effects of his relationship with God, trust me girl, you want this kind of man, this is the kind of man you want to submit to.

If you’ve got one, appreciate him and keep growing in the Lord together.

If you haven’t got one yet, wait on God for him, trust me, it will be worth the wait, for “God proves to be good to the man who passionately waits, to the woman who diligently seeks.” (Lamentations 3:25)

Be encouraged.

Happy Wednesday.


Encouragement For Singles

When It Was You Not Him

When it was you not him.jpg

He doesn’t always make all the mistakes, we all make mistakes, she makes some too.

Popular opinion is usually that it’s him, not you but sometimes sis, it’s us, we know, just keeping it real here.

Well, look who’s not getting all defensive, you grown girl! High five!

Okay, so the relationship went under and you realize the part you played, though you did your best to work things out, for some reasons ‘things’ did not cooperate with you and the relationship ended anyway.  What to do? What to know?

LET IT GO; You tried, you really tried (I know, been there, done that, ain’t got a t-shirt though) you apologized, tried to make amends but they made their choice, it’s okay, don’t hold it against them. Look at it this way, do you really want someone who doesn’t want you (anymore)? You don’t want to be fighting for the relationship alone, they should at least meet you half way or quarter way or less (since it was you not him), you don’t want to be in a relationship where it  feels like someone is doing you a favor by staying with you, so let it go and move on, there’s someone out there who will obtain favor just by finding you.


YOU ARE STILL WORTH IT; Your mistakes do not  define you, don’t let them confine you. You are not worthless because you made a mess, it’s what you did, not who you are, “for a righteous man (woman) falls seven times & rises again…” (Proverbs 24:16) (Parenthesis added by me) What happened? He fell. Who fell? A righteous man.  He wasn’t described as a fallen man because he fell. You see?




RISE AGAIN, BEGIN AGAIN;  God’s grace is  available to help us change for the better, so begin again, stronger, wiser, more mature, equipped with lessons to do better next time.

Oh yes.

THERE WILL BE A NEXT TIME;  “ Behold, I will do a new thing…” (Isaiah 49:19) Perhaps, you went through all of that to prepare you to for it, the new thing, so don’t fret,  God’s got you, trust Him, love yourself, live your life and don’t settle, when it’s time, the Lord will make it happen.

Be encouraged.

*Image from pixabay.com*


Encouragement For Singles · Everything Else

Trust His Blueprint


If only from the starting point,

we learn to see things from God’s view-point,

and make it our focal point,


we would avoid these relationships that are disjointed

and leave us disappointed.

There’s a blueprint,

time appointed,

one anointed,

that fits His intended end point

for you,

but more often than not,

it takes a breaking point,

for us to reach a turning point,

where we eventually get the point

and see the need

to work with Him.

You can trust His blueprint

for you,

it’s on point.

*Image from pixabay.com


Encouragement For Singles · Everything Else

Other things you can pray about for me apart from a husband (Birthday prayer guide)

birthdaySo, on my birthday last year, a lot of people sent kind wishes and prayers which was very sweet and greatly appreciated, the thing though is that, the prayers for a husband for me, had  the highest votes, the highest, as in I got more “the Lord will send him” than “May you live long and prosper”, but why?

Anyways, it’s my birthday in 3 days (yay!), so I thought to share a list of some other things you can pray about for me to give you more options when praying for me this time, sweet of me, right?

I know, you are welcome. 🙂

Please, this is not an anti marriage post, I’m not anti marriage, I do want a husband, I pray for and I’m waiting on God expectantly for mine, but then there are other things, just because someone is single doesn’t mean all they need is a husband, like I said, there are other things, here’s some of mine (this is a serious list);

  • A new television.
  • A generator – no comments on this please, just pray, thank you.
  • A new phone – Oh Jehovah Jireh.
  • Money, good money, lots of it.
  • Help – Pray it like this, say, “Father, let Sherie find the help she needs as she looks to you.”
  • Hair growth – my front hair especially aka my edges, no, I’m not planning to start making my hair, I just want my short hair fuller, please pray.
  • Deliverance from acne – for crying out loud, I’m turning 30 and I still have pimples like a teenager, perhaps one is trapped in me or is it my daughter? Maybe when I have her and she becomes a teenager, I’ll stop having pimples, I don’t even know what I’m saying, please just pray people.
  • Blog growth – more visitors, more readers, more traffic.
  • My family – yea, its okay to pray for them for me, on my birthday.
  • Peace, prosperity, safety & security in Nigeria – its okay too.

I’ll stop here, so it doesn’t look like we’re turning the birthday into some kind of revival but you see, so many others things to pray about.

Oh, one more thing, a car, rain don too beat me for this Lagos.

We trust God to hear and answer our prayers in Jesus name, Amen.


Encouragement For Singles

#WIFE: Well Done For Not Settling

No settlingHappy New Month!

So last month, last week Wednesday precisely, #WIFE went live (I just like saying it like that 🙂 ), yea, so it did and in case you are just hearing about it, #WIFE stands for Wednesday Is For Encouragement, by God’s grace every Wednesday, you can find something encouraging here, especially for the single ladies

Today, I just want to say well done for making it through the month of  June without settling, well done sis, shabash!

Haven’t settled for first half of the year? Double well done! Some of us have,  thankfully, we didn’t stay settling. Choosing not to settle is not an easy feat, you should be very proud of yourself.

Dont settle

Look at you knowing what you want and holding out for it, refusing to settle for less than God’s best for you, refusing to be with just anybody just to claim somebody, refusing to edit happiness out of your life just to accommodate someone, refusing to deal with one who doesn’t recognize or appreciate your worth, refusing to settle for games, projects & potential without progress, refusing to subtract for one who can not add, not because you’re being too picky or you have unrealistic standards or anything else but because you know your worth, you know who and whose you are, what you want and deserve and Who you are waiting on. Cheers to knowing your worth. You go girl!

I’m sure God’s proud of you too, for choosing to trust Him. No doubt, waiting can be hard, the temptation to settle can be seemingly irresistible, when it seems like you are being left out, coupled with pressures and whatnot but you are doing good, don’t stop getting better and keep not settling, you don’t have to settle with one you are not down with, just because you want to settle down.


Remember, you’ve got this girl, because God’s got you and He says “…they shall not be put to shame who wait for, look for, hope for, and expect Me.” (Isaiah 49:23c)

Be encouraged.

Encouragement For Everyone · Encouragement For Singles

Wednesday Is For Encouragement (#WIFE goes live!)


Hey girl.

I hope you are doing well? It’s been a while, I should write more (please say a prayer for a sister).

I have so much I want to write about and share with y’all but…  I do post often on Instagram though @sheriehabeeb, we can catch up there too.

So, one of the things that has been on my mind for some time now is to share something, a bible verse, a quote, a thought, a story, something, every Wednesday for encouragement’s sake, especially for the single ladies. Of course, everyday is for encouragement and some of us need it daily more than others but somehow, Wednesday found favor and was chosen for such a time as this 🙂 , perhaps because of the cute acronym it forms, WIFE – Wednesday Is For Encouragement.

So, even if we post everyday, on Wednesday we’ll post something encouraging and if we don’t post all week, on Wednesday, we must post something encouraging, so help us God. Every Wednesday, for now, by God’s grace, you can be sure to find something encouraging here because #WIFE.

So today, to the girl who needs some encouragement like myself, who feels overwhelmed, like she can’t go on, like she can’t hold on anymore,  please be strong, you’ve got this because God’s got you.

You got this girl

You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

You can be what God wants and has said you will be.

You can do what He wants and has said you will do.

You can have what He wants and has said you will have

You can wait, if He wants you to wait.

Whatever it is girl, you’ve got it because God’s got you.

The bible says,  “Now may the God Who gives the power of patient endurance (steadfastness) and Who supplies encouragement…” – Romans 15:5 AMPC (emphasis mine)

You see, God helps you, He helps you to be patient, He helps you wait, He encourages you, He’s got you girl, He’s with you every step of the way.

Please rest in that fact that God, your maker, your father, who loves you so much, He gave His only son just so you can be saved, I mean,  if He went all out to sort you out for eternity before you even knew it had to be sorted, how much more, your earthly needs, cares, concerns?

God. Is. Good. so everything He does is good and for good, even if or when you don’t think so and because He is on your side, girl, because God’s got you, then its all good, no matter how it looks right now, please don’t give up, stay strong, stay hopeful, God is faithful, too faithful to fail.

You’ve got this girl because God’s got you.

PS: Cheers to #WIFE  (finally) going live. Yay! High five? Yea!

#WednesdayIsForEncouragemnt #BeEncouraged