The pain of a broken heart is real, period.
Whether you are the one that ended the relationship or not, its painful.
I’ve been there, a few times and girl oh girl…
There was this particularly, very painful one, I couldn’t see past the pain at that time, I didn’t think I’d ever get over it, in fact I felt like dying but thank God, I pulled through and I believe you can too.
It hurts, I know but I also know that it can heal.
You saw a future with them and all of a sudden, the relationship came to a full stop, of course, that hurts, but your life doesn’t have to end just because the relationship ended, it has happened, now you have to deal with it and these Cs can help you.
Cry: As much as you want, as much as you can, cry. Alone in your room, doing the ugly cry, cry. In a bus, doing the pretty cry, cry. It hurts and yes, you are strong but its OK to cry, its OK to mourn, you don’t have to deny what you are feeling, let it out.
Cut them off: This would have been the first C but chances are, as you cry, you are kind of hopeful that things will get sorted, but the good thing is, as you cry, you come to terms with what has happened, you accept it (hopefully) and that’s so important to your healing process and that’s why you need to cut them off, to help the process, block ’em everywhere, resist the urge to text, call or stalk them, trust me, it’s for the best.
Console yourself: You’ve probably wallowed in your unhappiness for a while now, maybe you should give yourself a break, do something for yourself, to make you happy, take care of yourself. Need support from family and friends? Of course you do, reach out to them.
Careful who you talk to: You want to talk and listen to people who will help you come out better not leave you bitter, these people or this person will most likely be the one who tells you what to you need to hear not just what you want to hear.
Consider the matter: What lessons can you learn from this experience? Don’t forget to look at the role you played too, even if it was just being in the relationship at all.
Carry on: Yes, girl. At some point , you have to. You have your whole life ahead, this is not the end, it is in fact, a new beginning, so, go girl.
Call on God: I’m not trying to ‘spiritualize’ this, I’m just trying to stick with titles that begin with C (smiles). This comes last but its in no way least, because this goes with all others and at some point, you’ll stop crying and you’ll carry on (I believe) but you’ll always, always, always need God. Call on Him, every and any time.
He’s close to the brokenhearted (Psalms 34:18), He’s the one, who will heal your heart, He’s the one who will make this work out for your good, He’s the one who says to forget the former things and see the new thing He is doing, you can give Him every broken piece and He’ll turn it into something beautiful. It may be hard but let Him help you. He is with you, you are not alone.
For more encouragement, you can also read this, Letting go and moving on.
So there, I hope this helps. Don’t worry, soon, you’ll be yourself again. This too shall pass.
*Image from pixabay.com, edited by me.*