Encouragement For Singles

#WIFE: Some Encouragement For Valentine’s Day

Valentine encouragement

Does it feel like you are standing outside Noah’s ark today, everyone’s paired up but you?

Is the red everywhere making you blue?

You’d rather not be having alone time on valentine?

Yes, Valentine’s not just for lovers, it’s a day to also show love to others but after all said and done, you still wish you had a significant other?

Feeling left out? Lonely? Frustrated?

Beloved, can I encourage you?

The bible says, “and after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace [Who imparts all blessing and favor], Who has called you to His [own] eternal glory in Christ Jesus, will Himself complete and make you what you ought to be, establish and ground you securely, and strengthen, and settle you.” – 1 Peter 5:10 AMPC

Now, I’m not saying you are suffering because you don’t have a sweetheart on Valentine’s day but I know it’s hard, it can be painful and it’s not always enjoyable.

So, here’s some encouragement drawn from the bible passage quoted above;

  • The ‘suffering’ won’t last forever. You won’t always be alone on Valentine’s day. Just because it hasn’t happened yet, doesn’t mean it won’t happen.
  • You want to trust and rest in God rather than being desperate because all blessings and favor, including the blessing of a spouse, comes from Him.
  • Just because things are not going as you expected doesn’t mean God has abandoned you. He’s with you, working as you wait.
  • God has plans to settle you, don’t let ‘suffering’ make you settle for less than God has planned for you. It may be hard but it’s best to wait on God.

A few more things (not from the bible passage quoted);

  • However you choose to spend today, remember that you are loved. God loves you so much, it may sound cliché but He really does, like cwwwaaaaazzzieee!
  • You are not less than, you are not left out or missing out (not if you are where God has you at this time).
  • Don’t compare yourself with anyone else.
  • It’s okay if you decide to lay off social media today.
  • It’s better to be alone, being prepared for what you ought to have, than to have what you ought not, in order to not be alone.
  • It’s not a bad idea to do something nice for someone today, it could bring you some cheer.

One more thing;

You know we love you here, right?

We do! ❤

Happy Valentine’s Day.

Be encouraged.

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#WIFE: You’re Being Refined Not Burned


It may seem like you are going through ‘fire’ but be encouraged, you are not burning, you are ‘goldening’. Is that a word? I just made it up. Goldening because this (whatever it is), won’t get the best of you, God will use it instead, to bring out the best in you.

Just like gold, you are being refined not burned.

Check out these scriptures for some encouragement;

“Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.” – James 1:2-4 MSG

Moreover [let us also be full of joy now!] let us exult and triumph in our troubles and rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that pressure and affliction and hardship produce patient and unswerving endurance. And endurance (fortitude) develops maturity of character (approved faith and tried integrity). And character [of this sort] produces [the habit of] joyful and confident hope of eternal salvation. Such hope never disappoints or deludes or shames us…” – Romans 5:3-5 AMPC

“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you, and through the rivers, they will not overwhelm you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned or scorched, nor will the flame kindle upon you. – Isaiah 43:2 AMPC

“So we’re not giving up. How could we! Even though on the outside it often looks like things are falling apart on us, on the inside, where God is making new life, not a day goes by without his unfolding grace. These hard times are small potatoes compared to the coming good times, the lavish celebration prepared for us.” – 2 Corinthians 4:16-17 MSG

Keep trusting God and be encouraged.


Encouragement For Singles

It’s Okay To Not Like Being Single


It’s okay to have days you are not particularly excited about being single or you struggle with being content in it as you could do with some companionship.

There are days like that, life has its ups and downs and the single life is no exception.

Just please, always remember that in those moments of weakness, God’s grace is available and sufficient, always.

To be joyful in singleness doesn’t necessarily mean you (have to) like being single, it simply means you choose to trust God anyway.

That’s what changes everything, especially your perspective.

It’s written;

“But blessed are those who trust in the Lord and have made the Lord their hope and confidence. They are like trees planted along a riverbank, with roots that reach deep into the water. Such trees are not bothered by the heat or worried by long months of drought. Their leaves stay green, and they never stop producing fruit.” – Jeremiah 17:7-8

Trusting God, relying and depending on Him, is where the joy comes from, because you know, your God is a Father who’s tender and compassionate towards you,  who has only good plans for you, thinks only goods thoughts of you, has your best interest at heart, greater than you could ever dream and only wants to fill your life with good things.

You may not like this season He has you in, you may not understand how you are 30 going on 31 and you are not even dating anyone, when you thought you’d have 3 kids by now, you may not understand why all your friends are married and have had their 3 kids and you are still livin’ la Vida sola, you may not understand how every one else’s husband has been able to find them but it seems yours is having some difficulties finding his way.

You may not understand it all, perhaps that’s why God says, to trust in Him with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, stop trying to figure it out, just trust Him.

You can trust Him because He is so, so faithful.

You know that, morning came today because a long long time ago, God said that’s how it should be, right?

A long time ago. In the beginning, according to the bible. How long ago was that?

Yet, it has stayed that way, because He said so. Wow!

He is the same One whose word says that, “weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning”.

So, let every morning be a reminder of God’s faithfulness, a reminder that He keeps His word, He watches over it to perform it, a reminder that if this morning came, then the morning, when your joy will come, will also come, because God has said it.

All I’m trying to say is that, you can trust God.

He. Is. Faithful.

His plans and purpose for you, none can thwart and girl, those plans are good.

Yep, the bible says so, see below;

 “I know that You can do all things, and that no thought or purpose of Yours can be restrained or thwarted.” – Job 42:2

“I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.” – Jeremiah 29:11

Let this be your joy, in times when you don’t like being single, trust that it’s working altogether for good, your good.

It’s okay to have a Father-please-remove-this-cup-from-me moment, but I pray you always get to the nevertheless-not-my-will-but-Yours point and keep going.

You’ll be fine girl, we will be fine.

Be encouraged.


Encouragement For Singles

S-I-N-G-L-E (here’s what it means to me)


This is just one of many things that being single means (as least to me) as opposed to what’s assumed or believed by most.

Read up more on what being single doesn’t mean here and help me add to the list by sharing your thoughts in the comments section. Thanks girl.

Hope you are having a great day?



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#WIFE: Realize How Blessed You Are


As the song writer says, “when upon life’s billows you are tempest-tossed, when you are discouraged thinking all is lost, count your many blessings, name them one by one and it will surprise you what the Lord hath done.”

Not only will it surprise you, it will renew your hope and encourage you to keep trusting Him.

Forget about all of life’s issues stressing you out at the moment and just realize how blessed you are regardless.

He forgives all your sins
and heals all your diseases.
He redeems you from death
and crowns you with love and tender mercies.
He fills your life with good things.
Your youth is renewed like the eagle’s!

The Lord is compassionate and merciful,
slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.
He will not constantly accuse you,
nor remain angry forever.
He does not punish you for all your sins;
he does not deal harshly with you, as you deserve.
For His unfailing love toward those who fear him
is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth.
He has removed your sins as far from you
as the east is from the west.
The Lord is like a father to his children,
tender and compassionate to those who fear him.” 

(Culled from Psalms 103)

Ah! “Let all that I am praise the Lord; may I never forget the good things He does for me.” (Psalms 103:1)

Even when things don’t look so good, may we never forget that God is good, that His plans for us are of good and all He allows, is for our ultimate good.

May we never forget that God loves us, He’s with us and He won’t fail us.

May we never forget how blessed we are, regardless.

Be encouraged.

*Image from pixabay.com

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#WIFE: 2017 Didn’t Go As Planned?

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Hey guys,

Happy New Year.

2018, exciting right?  Or not so much? Perhaps, because 2017 didn’t go quite as you thought it would, didn’t end on a good note? Tell me about it.

Barely a week to the end of 2017, I had an accident that left me with a broken forehead and serious pains. You’ve got to be kidding me, this is not how I planned to end the year, just laying there, not able to move around, ‘popping pills’, hurting, crying, cranky, emotional…

But hey, it could have been worse. I was whining about how I was ending the year when I should have been thankful that I was ending the year regardless, I mean.

2018 God can

(That’s me. The photo on the left was few days after the accident, I was getting better, I don’t want to show you anything gory 🙂 and the photo on the right is me doing much more better).

Jan. 1st was the last thing on my mind when I was in pains and my face was covered in blood on Dec. 22nd, but truly, “this too shall pass”. I’m here today, with scars, ‘bald’ and all, healing, stronger, in way less pain and I’m again reminded that God delivers, He heals, He cares, He’s there. Not just there but right in there with you, in whatever you are going through,  He’s the one who takes us through, opening doors, making ways, sending help, showing mercy, giving favour, strengthening us, encouraging us… It’s all Him. Such a good God.

He says, “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you, and through the rivers, they will not overwhelm you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned or scorched, nor will the flame kindle upon you.” – Isaiah 43:2

So dear reader, 2017 may not have ended the way you wanted it to but you are still here.

You may say, so what? It’s yet another year, I’m still here but I’m not quite ‘there’ yet.

Well, hang in there. Let the new year renew your hope and trust in God, who makes new and is able to take you ‘there’.

I don’t belong to the “new year, new me” school of thought (I’m sorry if that’s yours, maybe we’ll talk about it later), I encourage you rather, to continue to press on.

“Not that I have now attained [this ideal], or have already been made perfect, but I press on to lay hold of (grasp) and make my own, that for which Christ Jesus (the Messiah) has laid hold of me and made me His own.” – Philippians 3:12

If you are not in Christ, as in, haven’t accepted Him as your Lord and Saviour, then you definitely need to do so to become new, but if you are, then please continue in Him.

Continue to love God, walk with Him, trust Him, wait on Him, to grow, to love and live to fullest, the life He has given you (regardless of what it looks like now).

Continue in Him.

May we attain new heights in our walk with God this year and as we seek Him, may our lives continually be filled with the joy, peace and pleasures in His presence.

Happy 2018.

Be encouraged.


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#WIFE: When The Wait Frustrates

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Happy holidays.

It’s the last Wednesday/our last #WIFE’s post for the year 2017 and I just want to encourage you who, yet another year’s ending and ‘it’ (whatever it is) still hasn’t happened for you.

Don’t despair, “for He Who promised is reliable (sure) and faithful to His word.”

God has not forgotten you, “the Lord has been mindful of us, He will bless us.” (Psalms 115:12). Always remember that He remembers you.

It may not have happened yet or this year as you hoped but look at it this way, as the year ends and we enter into a new year by God’s grace, you are closer to the due date. Time is not going, your time is coming.

Oh, the wait may frustrate,

but please keep the faith as God orchestrates,

for His purpose, none can thwart.

Don’t take the bait to settle for less or to become desperate,

for though He seems to tarry, He won’t be late,

when the time’s just right, He’ll make it happen

and you’ll see it was worth the wait.

The wait

Hang in there, seasons change.

“…for there is a time [appointed] for every matter and purpose and for every work.” – Ecclesiastes 3:17 AMPC

This may be the season where you’re being firmly rooted in preparation for the fruits you will bring forth (in season).

This may be a time to wait, a time to celebrate will come.

So don’t fret, stay in faith, stay hopeful, trust the God of the process. He’s faithful.

Be encouraged.

Happy new year in advance.